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Frequently Asked Questions (and other crass e-mails and telephone calls that I have received) Q1. Can I have your home telephone number and/or address please? Dream on. Q2. What is your real name? Mildred Roper. Q3. Your birthday? I am a fish. Q4. Are you married? What is your domestic situation? I have 2 husbands, 3 secret lovers, 12 natural children (7 girls and 5 boys) and 4 adopted children from Malawi. Now can I ask you your real name, your address, what your wife or girlfriend's name is, her mobile telephone number, whether she knows you are calling me, and how I can contact all of your friends and work colleagues. Q5. What is your vanilla day job? I am interning under the Mother Superior at St. Harlots, working towards taking my vows. Q6. What religion are you? I am a Catholic and I go to confession every week. The priests take shifts. Q7. Do you smoke? No. Q8. Do you do drugs? No. Q9. Do you drink? I like Cristal Champagne. Q10. Vital Statistics? 34C-24-32 Q11. Dress Size? 8 (UK) Q12. Shoe Size? 5 (UK) Q13. How would you describe yourself? A cultured super-confident bitch with a penchant for fine food and champagne. Q14. How old are you? If you ask me that question whilst I am caning your backside, you will be sleeping on your front for a week. Q15. How much do you weigh? I refer you to my previous answer. But make that two weeks. Q16. Are you a lesbian? No. Fully heterosexual. Q17. How long have you been a dominatrix? I have been a dominant female all my life and a dominatrix all of my adult life. Q18. Can I be part of your vanilla life? No. If you meet me on the BDSM side of the fence, then that is where you will always stay. Q19. Are you a natural blonde? If, by asking that question, you are enquiring as to whether collars and cuffs match, then I can assure you that they do. Not that you are ever going to find out. Q20. Why are you such a bitch? Men, liars and bullies, made me that way. Q21. Are you a sadist? Only where men are concerned. Q22. What is the favourite part of your body? Like any woman, I hate it all. Q23. What kind of underwear do you like? Black, sexy and silk. Q24. Will you be sub for me? If you want that kind of thing I suggest you look elsewhere. I only do normal stuff here. Q25. You look very fit. My wife wants to know if you diet at all? Yes I do, unlike your wife. Generally brown rice, vegetables, fruit and water. Girl food. Q26. Do you have fantasies other than BDSM? One or two. I like the thought of a guy taking me lingerie and shoe shopping, attentively following me around the shops without complaint. And then back to the beginning again to re-check the shops one more time before finally making purchases that he will pay for! Never happens of course. Q27. What car do you drive? Toyota Yaris. Q28. Would you go on holiday with me? It is unlikely you could afford my daily tribute. Q29. Can I marry you? Gone are the days when a gentleman would woo a lady with gifts, charm Her with his company, protect Her with his chivalry, generously lavish his wealth and love upon Her BEFORE asking Her father for his daughter's hand in marriage. I am NOT an image on a page. Asking a lady to marry you just because you like Her photograph strongly implies you are of trivial character, fundamentally have no interest in women beyond anything sexual, and are completely unable to support the daily demands of a relationship with a real, living breathing woman such as myself. Stick to plastic dolls, you will get less back-chat. Q30. Have you ever had a proper job? I used to be a personal banker. Q31. May I buy you a gift for your birthday? Yes, that would be welcome. Speak to me in session about this. Q32. What qualities do you look for in a man? I assume you are not referring to clients. If we are talking men in general, then I like strength of character and a guy who can make me laugh. And the ability to satisfy me for an entire afternoon without interruption also helps! Q33. What makes a woman cruel? My personal opinion is that it is natural for the weaker sex to want to subjugate men. Don't get me wrong, men must also be strong for us girlies, but for too long we have been repressed and forced to endure the will of men in our daily lives. Pay-back time! Q34. Can I have sex with you? What part of I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE don't you understand then? Q35. Not even for a 1000 UK Pounds? Not even for a million! Unless you are Brad Pitt. Q36. What about a blowjob? I refer you to my previous answer. Q37. A handjob then? Not very bright are you? Q38. Will you be my girlfriend? Nope. Q39. Do you enjoy sex? Yes, but not with you. Q40. Would you strip for me? I might do burlesque once I get to know you, but my knickers and bra stay on at all times. Q41. I understand your no-sex rule in session, problem is I think you are so beautiful I might not be able to control my urges. What do you advise? Simple. Do not pick up the telephone and do not call me. I too get urges, for example to force a sharp pointy heel hard into your testicles. Believe me, that will cure you. Q42. Do you actually enjoy caning and whipping guys? Of course, I wouldn't do it otherwise. It fulfils a deep need within me, so the harder and longer you take it, the happier and better adjusted I become! The best bit is the guy providing me with a tribute to do so. I would want a tribute even if I were a millionairess. It is the ultimate submission !! Q43. I don't want to be marked, can we avoid them? Yes. But please tell me this before the session starts otherwise I will assume that you do want to be marked - and you will be! Q44. I couldn't possibly take 200 strokes of the cane. Do I have to agree to this if I see you? Not at all. Everything is voluntary and for entertainment purposes only. Q45. How is it that some guys can take that many strokes? Pain thresholds are different between people, and also very subjective. Some are hugely experienced at taking it, others less so. It is fair to say that to take a large number of cane strokes, you will require practise. It gets easier - but never too easy. Q46. Do you practise giving the cane? Regularly on my clients. On quiet days I will practise for about an hour on a cushion or pillow. Technique and severity mainly - and to relieve a little female tension. Q47. Do you want to practise on me? Of course, but session tributes continue to apply. Obviously, if you were planning on visiting me frequently then we could work something out. However, that conversation is best conducted once you 'have' visited me frequently to prove your sincerity. Q48. Will you cane me until I cry? Crying is your department, not mine. Q49. Will you still cane me if I still have marks from a session I have had with another Mistress? Yes. But I would be cautious if the marks indicated more recovery time was required. Q50. Will you apply permanent marks? No. Everything is fun and for entertainment purposes only. Q51. How long will it take me to heal afterwards? How long is a bit of string? It depends on two things. Firstly, how hard I hit you. Secondly, your own body's ability to recover. No two people are the same. As a rule of thumb, if you look after yourself and eat a good healthy diet, then I would guess it will be quicker than somebody who lives their life in the opposite way. Cycling is good for bottom and I recommend it after a caning (as soon as you are able to). Q52. Mistress, I feel totally in love with you. Is this normal? Yes and no. A good caning will release endorphins into the bloodstream, this can simulate the feeling of love and is similar to that which women experience when eating chocolate. Love is perfectly natural, and serves to reinforce the bond between Mistress and submissive. In fact, I would be disappointed if you did not feel this way after a sound thrashing, because this would imply I had not hit you hard enough - and that would most definitely annoy me. However, I am more sceptical of love being expressed before a caning has been delivered. Not that I have any problems with this, but if this happens then it is likely to be something else, possibly the seeds of infatuation. Q53. May I respectfully ask whether er...PMT affects you caning at all? It does not make me cane harder, but does heighten my desire to cane someone. Q54. Do you provide CBT because your website says no heavy CBT? I do not want to touch your penis with my hands. But I am happy for your penis to make contact with my high-heels, if you know what I mean. Q55. Are you available for escorting? Very occasionally I might do this if I know you, but on the understanding that you pay my full hourly tribute in advance, my expenses - and no sex. Understood? Q56. Dinner dates? Again, very occasionally, but I would ideally want to thrash you beforehand and you will pay my full hourly tribute in advance, my expenses - and no sex. Understood? Oh yes, and no burger bars please or fast food. The more expensive the restaurant, the better. Q57. Who is you ideal client? Polite, courteous, mature, strong and submissive. Men who know how to treat women like ladies. As well as his session tribute, he will bring me a gift. Q58. Why were you rude to me? See if you can figure it out Einstein. Q59. If I become your friend will you cane me free-of-charge? Clients do indeed become friends, but do not stop being clients. Tributes ALWAYS have to be paid whether I have known you minutes or years. Q60. Do you work out? Daily for about two hours. You should ask your wife to try it. Q61. Seamed stockings or un-seamed? Definitely both, depending on the mood I am in. Q62. I am a first-timer and very nervous. What can I expect from you? You have come to the right place because there is nothing this harlot likes more than to deflower a virgin. Q63. Do you accept long-range bookings? Yes, I guess I do. Ultimately, you can see me tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. But you will still have to call me 2 days before to confirm. Q64. What is your favourite role-play persona? Office bitch. School governess. Strict wife. Q65. Why won't you do strap-on or anal play? Because I don't want to. I do not have to explain my reasons. Q66. But Mistress xyz does that? Go see her then. Q67. Do you see women for sessions? Yes, as long as the rules are understood. Q68. Will you travel abroad to see me? No. Q69. Will you take your knickers off during session or go topless? No. Q70. Speaking of knickers, can I purchase a pair please? Try Marks and Spencers. Q71. Stockings? Yes, you can purchase my stockings worn in session. Speak to me about that beforehand. Q72. Will you kiss me? Er, no. Q73. Can I bring my own cane? Of course. That is a real thrill for me, a guy who brings me the cane I am going to thrash him with. Q74. Does Mistress like gifts? I do. See my links page for ideas, and please feel free to bring a little something to session with you. It will guarantee you a harder thrashing! Q75. What is your favourite activity in session? Judicial caning. No safeword, no warm-up. Q76. And what is judicial caning? You are informed of the number of cane strokes you are going to receive - between 6 and 50. You are tied up and then caned the aforementioned number of full-force strokes until the sentence is delivered. There will be no warm-up and no pauses, the safeword will not be used, so once started the caning does not stop until all strokes have been applied. Whilst this may sound like a wonderful sexual fantasy - it is not. You should not attempt JC unless you are used to being caned. It is the real thing, and for this reason I would not entertain this consensual activity with someone I did not know well. Q77. Can I take photographs? Not of me. Q78. I am an amateur photographer and would like to help you develop your portfolio. Will you pose nude for me? Once again: No photographs and no taking my clothes off. I am a professional dominant not a model. And if were a model, I would want a decent photographer in a studio to take images of me, and for him or Her to pay me my professional rates. Not some oik with a digital camera who thinks I will take my kit off for him free of charge just to satisfy his schoolboy urges. Q79. Can I bring a camcorder? No. Q80. Can I be your slave? In session only. I have no requirement for a 24 hour live-in slave. Q81. Will you crush insects for me in session? How about I crush your scrotum with my high-heels? Would that turn you on? Q81. Do you take precautions with your security? Always and without exception. So, if you are planning on molesting me or just generally causing trouble - I really suggest you don't unless you want the legal authorities involved in your life for the forseeable future. Q82. Do you offer financial domination? No. I do not like this and find it distasteful. You provide a tribute and I provide a service in exchange. If it does not conform to this business principle then it is likely to be illegal, you know, like go-to-jail-type-illegal. There are specialist websites for financial domination. Speak to them. Q83. Could we have a session outside, like a forest for example, where we might get seen? Possibly once I know you. But I would not want to be discovered. If that is your thing, then I probably will not be able to help you. Q84. Will you dom me by e-mail? No. I do not offer this service. But if you interest me I might exchange e-mails with you. Q85. By telephone? No. Anyone attempting to telephone me just for the purpose of getting a cheap thrill will have to get used to speaking with the dial tone. Q86. Why do you require 48 hours notice for a session? Because I do not have my own premises and have to make arrangements to secure some. Q87. Will you go for a drink with me afterwards? No. Q88. I just want to talk about it. Will you counsel me? Absolutely, though I am not a trained counsellor - yet. But I am happy to discuss any issues you may have and provide you with my opinions if I can. However, my full hourly tribute continues to apply. My recommendation would be for you to visit your GP and get a referral to a trained therapist. Q89. Can I be naked in session? No, bottom only please. Q90. Can my wife/girlfriend join us in session? She can, but remember - no sexual contact with me. Q91. What kind of a guy irritates/upsets/frightens you in session? Guys who ... 1) ... turn up late believing that a display of tardiness will earn greater severity. 2) ... do not want to be submissive nor role-play. 3) ... who wait until the session has ended with my weaponry packed safely away before bravely declaring YOU DID NOT HIT ME HARD ENOUGH. 4) ... have e-mailed me, texted me or called me repeatedly requesting a severe caning then, when the day finally arrives, safeword after just a couple of strokes. 5) ... do not realise that the cane/paddle/whip, when applied to buttocks, does actually hurt. (A lot). 6) ... do not read my website then ask for services I have explicitly stated I DO NOT PROVIDE. 7) ... having read my website, still ask for services I have explicitly stated I DO NOT PROVIDE. 8) ... suddenly change on me - this is guaranteed to end the session whether it is complete or not. 9) ... want to negotiate the price of a one-hour tribute. I would not negotiate anything under four hours. 10) ... who want to direct the session themselves. Q92. I really want to have a session but I don't like pain! What can I do? Firstly decide whether your interest in BDSM is purely a fantasy or whether it is something you wish to experience. Not all sessions are painful. For example, you might feel happiest with some foot and leg worship or even just verbal humiliation. Book a session and explore, you are not expected to do anything you do not wish to do. Q93. Do you offer double-dom sessions? It could be arranged. But double-dom = double trouble = double 'ouch!' = double tribute. Q94. I really want to book a session with you but I am scared and feel that I will lose my bottle on the day? What do you advise? A very common problem. Ultimately, if you feel there is little chance of you arriving for your session then I would ask you respecfully not to book one, I cannot afford to waste my time. I re-iterate the key theme for all sessions - consensual. NOTHING will happen that has not been agreed upon beforehand. It is a pleasing sexual fantasy to submit unconditionally to the whims of a brutal Mistress without parameters or safewords, it is quite another thing to actually experience the reality. To explore the limits of your fantasies will take time, do not expect to run before you can walk. My aim is to provide you with the emotional fulfilment you require, not to beat you to within an inch of your life. You are NOT expected to begin by taking a judicial caning and, unless I know you well, I would not deliver one. For a novice, a light paddling or spanking is the best way to begin. It is easy, everyone can take it, and provides you with a nice gentle warm-up. After which, you will wonder why you were ever scared. Q95. Have you sessioned with anyone famous? Yes. Q96. Care to share? No. Q97. What is your definition of a timewaster? Variously ... 1) ... a guy who makes a booking and then does not show up. 2) ... a guy who writes lots of e-mails about the session he requires but never books one. 3) ... one-line e-mails from one-handed typists Dear Mistress, I want to be spanked by you, can you please advise? This is the type of e-mail that a guy will send to a hundred different girls with the belief that he might get a handful of responses to wank over. No attempt to impart information, he just wants a detailed description of me spanking him. Sad, cowardly and pathetic. You know who you are - get a life. Q98. Can I do your housework without providing you with a tribute? I am very submissive and trained to obey commands? I am sure this is a genuine request, but I have tried this type of arrangement in the past, and it never works. I am pro-dom not a lifestyle Mistress. I do what I do, I like to stick to what I know, anything else just complicates my life. I do not want the emotional demands of a 24/7 slave. Q99. Am I allowed to wank in front of you? I would rather you didn't. Q100. What safeword do you use? Mercy. Q101. Can we agree that you will ignore my safeword and continue the caning? Safewords will only be ignored during a judicial caning. Q102. But I feel really guilty about wanting this. Don't waste your life feeling guilty. Human sexuality is very complex and should not be defined by a husband and wife having missionary style sex every Saturday night. BDSM is perfectly normal and healthy as long as it does not involve children, animals or appalling violence against women (and men). Q103. I am an Egyptian camel trader, and will offer your master 200 of my finest animals for your contract. Is that accepted? Sorry, but it will take nearer 400. Q104. What about 5000 shekels? What !! Are you having a laugh !! 5000 !! 5000 !! I was sold at auction for 8000 just two years ago !! You hear that everybody !! He only wants to pay 5000 !! I'm worth 10000 if I'm worth a shekel !! You think I'm cheap or something? Q105. My wife does. Cheap? How about you ask your wife how much she charges her regulars each Tuesday night. Maybe you have wondered what those funny stains are on the back seat of your Ford Cortina? Or why the two furry dice hanging from the windscreen are stuck together? Q106. We are a small religious community based on a Pacific island south of Japan. We believe that you are the reincarnation of our Goddess Womanwanken, would you be prepared to take up residence in our community so that we may worship you? Yes. But my full hourly tribute still applies. Q107. Are you descended from the Greek Goddess Aphrodite? As far as I know she used to work out of a flat above a fish-and-chip shop in Chipping Sodbury. No relation to me. Q108. Where can I meet a woman like you? Why don't you ask your wife? Q109. My wife thinks you're a slut. Tell her that her arse looks huge, even wearing that truss. Q110. My wife thinks you're ugly. Look who's talking. At least I have never appeared in Readers Wives. Q111. My wife thinks you should get a proper job. At least I do not have to suck your penis each month to get my housekeeping money. Q112. My wife thinks women like you are corrupting the moral fibre of our society. Women can find it very difficult to lose weight after childbirth and consequently husbands will roam. Q113. My wife thinks you're that has-been porn star from the 70s. I hate to cloud anybody's delusions with facts, but I wasn't actually born then. And besides, I can understand your wife feeling depressed given that her sex-life is defined by a vibrator, camcorder and a winch. Q114. My mum warned me about girls like you. She was right. Q115. My wife thinks you're a prostitute. Oh no !! Women as well !! Actually, tell you what, give me your wife's mobile number, I can probably put some work her way. Q116. My wife thinks you're a nymphomaniac. The problem is, your wife comes from a generation where orgasms were something women only knew about from reading magazines. A time when a wife still believed her husband's assertion that deep-throating Her was supposedly a cure for tonsilitis. Q117. What makes you horny? When is the penny going to drop? I am not interested in discussing the sex thing with you. Listen to me once again - CANING TURNS ME ON !! and it is something I need to do regularly. Got that? You guys need to wank a dozen times every day, and have sex with as many women as you can persuade to lay down and take it from you. Well, that is how I feel about caning. I need to thrash bottoms, otherwise the tensions just builds up and explodes within me. Q118. What would you do if you were Prime Minister? 1) I would ban men from having any position of responsibility as testosterone confuses their tiny minds and make them a liability. 2) Prevent all men having access to pictures of ladies (clothed, naked or otherwise) until they have learnt to read. Q119. My wife isn't the least bit dominant and, quite frankly, leaves me limp for a week when she takes Her clothes off. Do you have any advice? A new wife perhaps? Or if that would be too expensive then how about emergency liposuction? Q120. My wife thinks you're a manhater. I am sick and tired of your bloody wife !! Do I hate men? No. I love them. It is just the idiots I do not like - and your loud, crass, ignorant wife. Q121. If I don't withhold my telephone number, will you call my wife? I would really prefer not to. Q122. Why have you been calling my husband? Check you telephone bill. You will discover that it is your husband who has been calling me to talk about his erections. Q123. Would you see me and my friend Cyril at the same time? And with just one tribute? Are you honestly telling me that you would want your friend to watch whilst I dommed you? No. I would not see two guys together, it would be too dangerous for me. And besides, even if security was sorted out, I would still require a tribute from the pair of you. Q124. My wife doesn't believe you are a size 10. Wow! She has finally got something right. I am size 8. Q125. I finally persuaded my wife to spank me the other evening. But I found it a turn-off, and the sex afterwards was not very good. What am I doing wrong? I suggest that you ask your wife to forego the supper of pickled eggs and pilchards that she is partial to. Or at least suggest she cleans her teeth before she gets into bed. Or if that is a problem, then leave them in a jar of water overnight. Q126. After 47 years of marriage, the wife and I thought we would spice up our sex lives. I got myself a cock-ring, and she slimmed down to a size 18. For the first time since our honeymoon she gave me a blowjob. Problem was, my newly installed ring got caught on one of her fillings and we ended up in A&E having to be separated. Do you think we are being too adventurous given that we are both in our 70s? Yes. Good idea if you stick to magazines, at least that way it will only be you who gets a hernia. Q127. I like the thought of you nude mud wrestling with my wife, interested? Well, you are free to think. Q128. Will you polish my knob for me? Sounds to me like you need a local bob-a-job scout. They are always looking for a bit of extra pocket money for those things no one else wants to do. Q129. What is the most disgusting thing you have ever been asked to provide in session? Many things. But one that does spring to mind involved ferrets, a sturdy cardboard tube and forceps. Unfortunately, I do not own any of these items so was not able to oblige the well-adjusted gentleman on that occasion. Q130. Would you be interested in a weekend of trout fishing in Devon? I would also need to be spanked whilst you were wearing your rubber yellow wellies, but not too hard because the wife would see the marks and we are already having arguments about the pigeon loft I am building in her vegetable patch. You charmer. Q131. Why is domination so expensive? Because it is. See My Journal, I have explained this in detail. I am too bored to do it again here. Q132. But its more expensive than sex? You can get sex from your wife or any working girl. Domination services are provided by fewer women, therefore the product becomes more scarce and the price goes up. Market forces I'm afraid. Q133. I am a pensioner, will you give me a discount? Now that did make me laugh ha-ha. Q134. I am having some cash flow problems right now. Can I pay you double next time? No tribute = no session. Q135. How often should I have a session with you? As often as you need to and have tributes to offer. I would never encourage somebody to offer tributes they could not afford. After all, your wife and kids must be your first priority. Also, if you have received a judicial caning, you are best advised to take several weeks to recover first. Q136. Why are out-calls more expensive? To cover my travel time and petrol for my car. Q137. Are tributes to be paid before the session begins or after it finishes? Before. Otherwise there will be no session. Q138. Why don't you get a proper job to pay your bills. Then you can session with me for free? Right-o. I will get my old job back at the bank and then add you to my list of priorities. And how about you get a proper job as well, one that actually involves a days work for a days pay, instead of trawling the Internet for sex because you cannot get a girlfriend. Please stay away and do not contact me again, there's a good boy. Q139. I can't afford to visit a professional dominatrix. What can I do? Variously ... 1) ... ask your wife. 2) ... ask your sister-in-law. 3) ... save up some money. 4) ... get a job. 5) ... CP video producers are always looking for willing subs. 6) ... ask a neighbour. 7) ... ask your boss at work (assuming she is female). 8) ... find a 24/7 dominatrix and ask to be her live-in slave. 9) ... ask your mother-in-law. 10) ... ask your local bob-a-job scout leader. 11) ... self-flagellate. Q140. But I really, really, really need to be caned. Please help me Mistress. Is this the way you behave when asked for payment by your local garage for having serviced and MOTed your car? Is this how you would respond? No. So why am I different? You could learn to service your car yourself but, failing that, you will have to pay a professional to do it for you. There is no difference. I am providing you with a service. You are quite welcome to find a girl and ask her to do it for free. It is not my fault you can't. Q141. But its impossible to find a dominant partner. Granted, it is difficult. There are many more sub men than dominant ladies, so I agree it is not an easy task. But, that is for you to work out. I would suggest you visit clubs, chat on forums, place personal ads and maybe just try to cultivate the dominant tendency in your girlfriend. It can be done, just that most men do not have the patience - they want it now. That is where I come in. Q142. But it is so, so, expensive. It's not fair. Is it expensive? You only think so because you don't want to pay, believing that you ought to have it for free. Well, listen to me sunshine, life is not fair and life is not free. If you are that desperate then get an evening job at your local supermarket stacking shelves. You should have enough for a session with me by the end of the month. Q143. I sent you an e-mail asking for a recommendation as to the number of strokes of the cane I should receive for being a naughty boy. Why have you not replied? Because I deleted your e-mail. If you want a session, call me to arrange one. Q144. I want to be severely spanked/caned/strapped/birched/whipped. Can you advise me please? No. Either book a session or leave. In session you will get all the advice you need. Q145. I am nervous and want to speak/write to you first. I understand. The best thing to do is book a session and we can talk then. I will respond to intelligent e-mails asking specific questions, but will soon tire of this if you do not progress towards naming a date. Q146. Can I do "security" for you? I am certain yours is a genuine offer, but unless I have known you for sometime, it kind of makes a mockery of the notion of security. And besides, would you be available at a moments notice? Would you want to do it for free? No session and no fees? Probably not I suspect. Q147. Aren't out-calls risky? After all, you don't you who you are going to see? Yes, they are riskier and I would have to convince myself that you were a safe bet. However, my whereabouts is known at ALL times. And the alarm will be raised if I do not confirm my safety once a session is complete. Having said that, 99 out of 100 guys are perfect gentlemen. It is the one rotten apple that spoils it for everybody else, making security measures necessary. Q148. Would you object to my having more than one Mistress? You are not my prisoner. Q149. Does caning a guy ever make you orgasmic? Orgasmic caning? Now I like the sound of that. Different stimuli can elicit a rainbow of sexual responses from any woman. For me, caning is one of them. Sometimes I can get very aroused by the act of thrashing someone, but it tends to be the exception and not the rule. It is more likely to occur during a longer session than a short one, and with someone I know rather than someone I do not. And of course, it would have to be someone who was able to take my most severe administrations. But that is really too simple, many things affect the way a woman responds. The temperature, lighting, how she felt when waking up that morning, and a million other thoughts and combinations. But - and here is the important point - I would never make this known in session, nor would I ever have any sexual contact with you. I answer this question honestly, but NOT to encourage you. If you start getting sexual with me, the session ends automatically and there is no reprieve. Q150. Can you recommend a Mistress to me? No. Every girl is different, it is up to you to decide if she is right for you. Q151. If you were not a Mistress, what would be your ideal career choice? Probably working in the third world somewhere, trying to make difference to the lives of those who are destitute and without hope. Q152. What do you like to listen to when soaking in the bath? Canework striking exposed male buttock flesh complete with the agonised gasps that follow. Failing that, I am very partial to Mozart and Bach. Q153. Favourite film? I liked Gladiator with Russell Crowe because there was something about his character that appealed to a primitive instinct within women. It is the way he loved his wife and child beyond all else, and for any woman that is a real aphrodisiac. I also liked Robert De Niro in Casino, I am definitely the sassy Sharon Stone character in that film. A wild girl with an eye for the underdog. In fact, I enjoy most films directed by Martin Scorcese or starring Al Pacino or Robert De Niro. Strong, confident, chivalrous men turn me on! Q154. I am God's gift to women and I feel certain you will want to see me naked. I feel certain that you are wrong. You are NOT God's gift to women. Besides, I have already sessioned with him and he came up short - about five inches too short. Q155. Will you cane me until I bleed? Bleeding is your deparment, not mine. Q156. Do you insure your legs? Yes I do. I did so earlier this year for 12,000,000 UK Pounds. Q157. Will you cane me in your underwear. I might be persuaded. Q158. Can I self-relieve in session? No. Q159. Why not? Firstly, I just do not like the sight of you doing this. Secondly, I would be concerned where you might be thinking about inserting your appendage when the mood gets the better of you. Q160. Can I kiss your knickers? Are you sure it is just my knickers you want to kiss? Q161. You decadent western slags are always flaunting your bodies like whores, you disgust us! Quite. Now, I do not claim to know a lot about the techy stuff of websites but, those who do, tell me that quite a lot of my website traffic originates from non-Western countries such as yours. For all of your rhetoric, bigortry, hatred and moral servitude, it seems that a great many of your countrymen, privately, disagree with you. Stop wanking over my pictures and go figure. Q162. Me and the wife are heading up to Yorkshire for a spot of bog snorkelling. In the evening I fancy you sponging me and my privates down with a hose and wet cloth which will be quite messy by the time I have finished. Not a word to the wife because she thinks I like normal stuff. What do you cost? 10,000 UK Pounds per hour, and for that, your wife can watch. Q163. Can I bring you garden canes to thrash me with? Absolutely, but bring half a dozen as I will probably break them on you. Q164. What makes you laugh? Impressionists make me laugh, like Rory Bremner and Alistair McGowan. News that you have caught your wife in bed with her 19 year-old lover would make me laugh. The funniest thing that has happened to me, and this was some years ago at the beginning of my dominant career, was when one chap decided that rather than have the session he had paid for, he would instead take off his clothes in preparation to molest me. By some co-incidence, I had my neighbours Alsation cross in the next room. I had agreed to look after her whilst the owners were on holiday. As a result of my screaming, Petra comes bursting in with teeth bared and an obvious desire to defend me. She launched herself at this chap, engaging him in an impromptu tug-of-war. I often wonder how he would have explained the teeth marks on his little manhood to his wife. Fortunately for him, he was still in warm-up mode, so Petra really only had a bit of gristle to chew upon, otherwise my canine guardian might have had a bone to bury! I couldn't stop laughing for a week after that!! The memory still brings a smile to my lips even today. Q165. May I swallow viagra during session? Be my guest, but I will not be swallowing anything. And you will have no use for your erection during session so why bother? I will stamp out erections, HARD. Why not use it for your wife's benefit? It might encourage her to stay awake whilst you are pummeling her, instead of just laying on her back snoring. Q166. Favourite holiday destination? Bognor Regis. Only joking, somewhere warm, sunny and picturesque. An African safari would be nice. Q167. Favourite football team? No interest I'm afraid. 22 men chasing a bag of air. Q168. I'm Farmer Gilbert, would you give me a session out in the open in one of my cow fields? By the way you remind me of one of my heifers, she's got a great pair of udders as well and won a rosette in a country show earlier this year. Secrets of seduction number 1481. Do not - either intentionally, by insinuation or by accident - compare a lady to a prize winning heifer. Q169. Can you do me a back, sac and crack? Yes, but I prefer to use coarse grade sandpaper. Will that be OK? Q170. Do you like flowers? What girl doesn't? Red roses will do just fine. XXX Q171. Which male celebrities do you like? Gordon Ramsay. Sir Alan Sugar. Al Pacino to name three. Q172. Glass half-full or half-empty? Half-full. Q173. High maintenance or low maintenance? Definitely high maintenance. Q174. Fancy going horse rustling with me? I assume you mean horse-riding? Take more water with it please. Q175. Can I e-mail my b****s to you? I would rather you left them out for the dustman instead. And besides, my e-mail filter is set up to prevent pricks getting through to me. Q176. Would you come and watch the ladies tennis with me? Yes, I would love to, but unless you have VIP Centre Court tickets at Wimbledon, my hourly tribute still applies. I suggest you watch it on TV instead, you can then relieve yourself in the privacy of your own armchair but be careful you don't stain the fabric otherwise your wife might start asking questions. Q177. What is your favourite type of session? Someone who knows what they want. He will book a session for an exact time and duration on an exact day. He will arrive on time, provide the tribute without quibbling, engage in a fun session and then leave without incident. This impresses me, particularly when it is repeated a dozen times. Q178. Will you do face-sitting? I cannot read so there is no point referring me to your website. Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!! Q179. Can I take you shopping? Yes please !!! Clothes, lingerie, shoes and Cristal Champagne. Q180. Do you create your own website? Yes, I do. I got tired of relying on others so attended a computer course to get myself trained. I might be blonde but am not stupid. Q181. Will you be seduced into having sex with me? No. I refer you to my answer to question 34. I have turned down a suitcase full of cash before now, so it will just not happen. If you intend to book a session with sex in mind, then please do not waste your time or mine, it will never happen. I know that most men believe they are God's gift but, believe me when I say "no sex please, I'm a dominatrix". Go find a prostitute and seduce her, it will be a great deal easier! Q182. Why "Mistress Estella"? Read "Great Expectations" by Charles Dickens. Q183. Can I tattoo your name on my penis? Certainly, but I quite understand if you need to drop "Mistress" and just use "Estella". Or if you are feeling the chill, then "E" will do just fine. Q184. Would you do a public caning? What, you mean at Hyde Park corner or somewhere like that? Q185. Can I star in your videos? What videos are they then? Q186. Can you do Singapore caning? You should get a guy to do this for you. Most women, including this one, will just not have the physical strength. Q187. I am the assistant to the Crown Prince of Kazakhstan. He has ordered me to have you scrubbed before bringing you to his tent where his Highness intends to ride your like one of his camels. You will make a worthy addition to his herd. Ooooh, I get so tingly just not thinking about it. And are there camels in Kazakhstan? Q188. Would you hit my bs until they explode? I include this here to demonstrate what "safe, sane and consensual" really does not mean. Q189. Brother Jeremiah and I from the South-Northern Neo-Baptist Church of Alabama [Split 1917 from the Free Love Church of Alabama over a dispute about the interpretation of Choir Boys] condemn you for building a devil's steeple in the Temple of our loins. Well, I've never had a problem erecting fenceposts in my front garden, but steeples? Temples? Huh? I suggest you two boys may have lost your way, go back to Google and type something suitably Christian like "self-love" instead of "blonde dominatrix", "whipping and caning" and "high-heels". I think that perhaps on this occasion your steeples may have interfered with your typing. Q190. I have a fantasy where you and the wife watch me wrestle an alligator. The winner gets to have sex. Huh? I will let your wife claim the prize, alligators are more her kind of thing than mine by the looks of things. Q191. Sorry I had to cancel my appointment with you, my girlfriend found out and wouldn't let me come. No kidding, is that what you tell her when you can't get it up? "I'm waiting for permission". Methinks you should stop pretending - idiots like you don't have girlfriends except for the plastic kind that have to be emptied every couple of months. Timewaster. Q192. Do you have a red swimsuit, and if so, do you look good in and out of it? Yes and yes and yes, not that you are going to find out. Q193. Speaking of swimsuits, did you ever audition for Baywatch back in the 90s? No. Pammie and I are both good at breast-stroke, but there ends the similarity I'm afraid. Q194. What is the furthest distance you will travel for a session? Ideally anywhere in the South East corner. Southampton, Reading, Southend, Dover, London, that sort of distance. I would travel further but unless you are very wealthy, you would find my tribute prohibitive. If you live a long distance away and really want to session with me, then I suggest you visit me and stay in a local hotel. Call me for some details. Q195. Would you escort me to the opera, assuming I paid your tribute? Yes please ! My favourite is Madam Butterfly. A real tear-jerker, gets me everytime. Q196. Have you had a boob job? No, I have not, although if you want to pay for one then that could be free sessions for a year ! Q197. Do you see disabled people? Yes, I am perfectly happy to do so although it would much depend on your circumstances and whether it was practical. Either way, we must always act responsibly - and that could mean not having a session. Q198. Are you familiar with scripture Estella? Mistress Estella to you. Yes, I studied under Father Ted on Craggy island. He advised me that rather than spend years learning the stuff in a classroom, it was much quicker and easier if he and the other priests took it in turns to fill me with the Holy Spirit each night of my stay. In that way, I then had more time to repay their favour by helping them with their fitness (I am an instructor), demonstrating aerobic exercises wearing the bikini they generously all chipped in to buy me as a measure of their gratitude. Q199. Tell me one of your secrets Mistress Estella. I am actually a 6'7' beer-swilling, rugby-playing tranvestite called Dave. Q200. Can I be your whipping boy Mistress Estella? Certainly, book a session and lets get started. Q201. I understand your no-sex rule Mistress Estella, but I like to get sexual in sessions. You obviously do not understand my no sex rule. Let me re-iterate this "Getting sexual in session = immediate end to session." Q202. My other Mistress will not give me permission to see you. Could you give her a call and talk it over? No. You deal with it. Q203. May I critique the session I have with you and send you an e-mail of my thoughts? If you wish, but I always give 100% in session, so if you have criticisms to make then make them to my face the next time I see you. Q204. Would you be prepared to accept an exchange of services in lieu of a tribute? In my experience, when this question is asked, the service in question is usually something something banal like "gardening", "cleaning" or - wait for it* --- "massage". No tribute = no session. Q205. I am gay, will you still see me? Listen, I will see anyone regardless of gender, colour, sexual orientation or disposition in life. All I ask is tributes to be paid, no quibbling, and respect throughout. Q206. Would you be prepared to catch my cock with a mousetrap? Yes, if the offending item is making a nuisance of itself then I would not hesitate in putting an end to its rummaging. Q207. Would you be prepared to take "before" and "after" photographs of my bottom. Yes, bring your own camera and I will oblige. But no photographs of me. Q207. Do you do bitch and slut training? Slut training - yes. But, to be a bitch you first have to be a woman. Q208. Would you escort me to my local fetish club and pretend to be my girlfriend? Yes, if you are prepared to pay my hourly tribute. Q209. Ever done Page 3? No. Q210. Ever done Playboy? I have, but not for the magazine.
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Frequently Asked Questions
(and other crass e-mails and telephone calls that I have received)

Q1. Can I have your home telephone number and/or address please?
Dream on.

Q2. What is your real name?
Mildred Roper.

Q3. Your birthday?
I am a fish.

Q4. Are you married? What is your domestic situation?
I have 2 husbands, 3 secret lovers, 12 natural children (7 girls and 5 boys) and 4 adopted children from Malawi. Now can I ask you your real name, your address, what your wife or girlfriend's name is, her mobile telephone number, whether she knows you are calling me, and how I can contact all of your friends and work colleagues.

Q5. What is your vanilla day job?
I am interning under the Mother Superior at St. Harlots, working towards taking my vows.

Q6. What religion are you?
I am a Catholic and I go to confession every week. The priests take shifts.

Q7. Do you smoke?
No.

Q8. Do you do drugs?
No.

Q9. Do you drink?
I like Cristal Champagne.

Q10. Vital Statistics?
34C-24-32

Q11. Dress Size?
8 (UK)

Q12. Shoe Size?
5 (UK)

Q13. How would you describe yourself?
A cultured super-confident bitch with a penchant for fine food and champagne.

Q14. How old are you?
If you ask me that question whilst I am caning your backside, you will be sleeping on your front for a week.

Q15. How much do you weigh?
I refer you to my previous answer. But make that two weeks.

Q16. Are you a lesbian?
No. Fully heterosexual.

Q17. How long have you been a dominatrix?
I have been a dominant female all my life and a dominatrix all of my adult life.

Q18. Can I be part of your vanilla life?
No. If you meet me on the BDSM side of the fence, then that is where you will always stay.

Q19. Are you a natural blonde?
If, by asking that question, you are enquiring as to whether collars and cuffs match, then I can assure you that they do. Not that you are ever going to find out.

Q20. Why are you such a bitch?
Men, liars and bullies, made me that way.

Q21. Are you a sadist?
Only where men are concerned.

Q22. What is the favourite part of your body?
Like any woman, I hate it all.

Q23. What kind of underwear do you like?
Black, sexy and silk.

Q24. Will you be sub for me?
If you want that kind of thing I suggest you look elsewhere. I only do normal stuff here.

Q25. You look very fit. My wife wants to know if you diet at all?
Yes I do, unlike your wife. Generally brown rice, vegetables, fruit and water. Girl food.

Q26. Do you have fantasies other than BDSM?
One or two. I like the thought of a guy taking me lingerie and shoe shopping, attentively following me around the shops without complaint. And then back to the beginning again to re-check the shops one more time before finally making purchases that he will pay for! Never happens of course.

Q27. What car do you drive?
Toyota Yaris.

Q28. Would you go on holiday with me?
It is unlikely you could afford my daily tribute.

Q29. Can I marry you?
Gone are the days when a gentleman would woo a lady with gifts, charm Her with his company, protect Her with his chivalry, generously lavish his wealth and love upon Her BEFORE asking Her father for his daughter's hand in marriage. I am NOT an image on a page. Asking a lady to marry you just because you like Her photograph strongly implies you are of trivial character, fundamentally have no interest in women beyond anything sexual, and are completely unable to support the daily demands of a relationship with a real, living breathing woman such as myself. Stick to plastic dolls, you will get less back-chat.

Q30. Have you ever had a proper job?
I used to be a personal banker.

Q31. May I buy you a gift for your birthday?
Yes, that would be welcome. Speak to me in session about this.

Q32. What qualities do you look for in a man?
I assume you are not referring to clients. If we are talking men in general, then I like strength of character and a guy who can make me laugh. And the ability to satisfy me for an entire afternoon without interruption also helps!

Q33. What makes a woman cruel?
My personal opinion is that it is natural for the weaker sex to want to subjugate men. Don't get me wrong, men must also be strong for us girlies, but for too long we have been repressed and forced to endure the will of men in our daily lives. Pay-back time!

Q34. Can I have sex with you?
What part of I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE don't you understand then?

Q35. Not even for a 1000 UK Pounds?
Not even for a million! Unless you are Brad Pitt.

Q36. What about a blowjob?
I refer you to my previous answer.

Q37. A handjob then?
Not very bright are you?

Q38. Will you be my girlfriend?
Nope.

Q39. Do you enjoy sex?
Yes, but not with you.

Q40. Would you strip for me?
I might do burlesque once I get to know you, but my knickers and bra stay on at all times.

Q41. I understand your no-sex rule in session, problem is I think you are so beautiful I might not be able to control my urges. What do you advise?
Simple. Do not pick up the telephone and do not call me. I too get urges, for example to force a sharp pointy heel hard into your testicles. Believe me, that will cure you.

Q42. Do you actually enjoy caning and whipping guys?
Of course, I wouldn't do it otherwise. It fulfils a deep need within me, so the harder and longer you take it, the happier and better adjusted I become! The best bit is the guy providing me with a tribute to do so. I would want a tribute even if I were a millionairess. It is the ultimate submission !!

Q43. I don't want to be marked, can we avoid them?
Yes. But please tell me this before the session starts otherwise I will assume that you do want to be marked - and you will be!

Q44. I couldn't possibly take 200 strokes of the cane. Do I have to agree to this if I see you?
Not at all. Everything is voluntary and for entertainment purposes only.

Q45. How is it that some guys can take that many strokes?
Pain thresholds are different between people, and also very subjective. Some are hugely experienced at taking it, others less so. It is fair to say that to take a large number of cane strokes, you will require practise. It gets easier - but never too easy.

Q46. Do you practise giving the cane?
Regularly on my clients. On quiet days I will practise for about an hour on a cushion or pillow. Technique and severity mainly - and to relieve a little female tension.

Q47. Do you want to practise on me?
Of course, but session tributes continue to apply. Obviously, if you were planning on visiting me frequently then we could work something out. However, that conversation is best conducted once you 'have' visited me frequently to prove your sincerity.

Q48. Will you cane me until I cry?
Crying is your department, not mine.

Q49. Will you still cane me if I still have marks from a session I have had with another Mistress?
Yes. But I would be cautious if the marks indicated more recovery time was required.

Q50. Will you apply permanent marks?
No. Everything is fun and for entertainment purposes only.

Q51. How long will it take me to heal afterwards?
How long is a bit of string? It depends on two things. Firstly, how hard I hit you. Secondly, your own body's ability to recover. No two people are the same. As a rule of thumb, if you look after yourself and eat a good healthy diet, then I would guess it will be quicker than somebody who lives their life in the opposite way. Cycling is good for bottom and I recommend it after a caning (as soon as you are able to).

Q52. Mistress, I feel totally in love with you. Is this normal?
Yes and no. A good caning will release endorphins into the bloodstream, this can simulate the feeling of love and is similar to that which women experience when eating chocolate. Love is perfectly natural, and serves to reinforce the bond between Mistress and submissive. In fact, I would be disappointed if you did not feel this way after a sound thrashing, because this would imply I had not hit you hard enough - and that would most definitely annoy me. However, I am more sceptical of love being expressed before a caning has been delivered. Not that I have any problems with this, but if this happens then it is likely to be something else, possibly the seeds of infatuation.

Q53. May I respectfully ask whether er...PMT affects you caning at all?
It does not make me cane harder, but does heighten my desire to cane someone.

Q54. Do you provide CBT because your website says no heavy CBT?
I do not want to touch your penis with my hands. But I am happy for your penis to make contact with my high-heels, if you know what I mean.

Q55. Are you available for escorting?
Very occasionally I might do this if I know you, but on the understanding that you pay my full hourly tribute in advance, my expenses - and no sex. Understood?

Q56. Dinner dates?
Again, very occasionally, but I would ideally want to thrash you beforehand and you will pay my full hourly tribute in advance, my expenses - and no sex. Understood? Oh yes, and no burger bars please or fast food. The more expensive the restaurant, the better.

Q57. Who is you ideal client?
Polite, courteous, mature, strong and submissive. Men who know how to treat women like ladies. As well as his session tribute, he will bring me a gift.

Q58. Why were you rude to me?
See if you can figure it out Einstein.

Q59. If I become your friend will you cane me free-of-charge?
Clients do indeed become friends, but do not stop being clients. Tributes ALWAYS have to be paid whether I have known you minutes or years.

Q60. Do you work out?
Daily for about two hours. You should ask your wife to try it.

Q61. Seamed stockings or un-seamed?
Definitely both, depending on the mood I am in.

Q62. I am a first-timer and very nervous. What can I expect from you?
You have come to the right place because there is nothing this harlot likes more than to deflower a virgin.

Q63. Do you accept long-range bookings?
Yes, I guess I do. Ultimately, you can see me tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. But you will still have to call me 2 days before to confirm.

Q64. What is your favourite role-play persona?
Office bitch. School governess. Strict wife.

Q65. Why won't you do strap-on or anal play?
Because I don't want to. I do not have to explain my reasons.

Q66. But Mistress xyz does that?
Go see her then.

Q67. Do you see women for sessions?
Yes, as long as the rules are understood.

Q68. Will you travel abroad to see me?
No.

Q69. Will you take your knickers off during session or go topless?
No.

Q70. Speaking of knickers, can I purchase a pair please?
Try Marks and Spencers.

Q71. Stockings?
Yes, you can purchase my stockings worn in session. Speak to me about that beforehand.

Q72. Will you kiss me?
Er, no.

Q73. Can I bring my own cane?
Of course. That is a real thrill for me, a guy who brings me the cane I am going to thrash him with.

Q74. Does Mistress like gifts?
I do. See my links page for ideas, and please feel free to bring a little something to session with you. It will guarantee you a harder thrashing!

Q75. What is your favourite activity in session?
Judicial caning. No safeword, no warm-up.

Q76. And what is judicial caning?
You are informed of the number of cane strokes you are going to receive - between 6 and 50. You are tied up and then caned the aforementioned number of full-force strokes until the sentence is delivered. There will be no warm-up and no pauses, the safeword will not be used, so once started the caning does not stop until all strokes have been applied. Whilst this may sound like a wonderful sexual fantasy - it is not. You should not attempt JC unless you are used to being caned. It is the real thing, and for this reason I would not entertain this consensual activity with someone I did not know well.

Q77. Can I take photographs?
Not of me.

Q78. I am an amateur photographer and would like to help you develop your portfolio. Will you pose nude for me?
Once again: No photographs and no taking my clothes off. I am a professional dominant not a model. And if were a model, I would want a decent photographer in a studio to take images of me, and for him or Her to pay me my professional rates. Not some oik with a digital camera who thinks I will take my kit off for him free of charge just to satisfy his schoolboy urges.

Q79. Can I bring a camcorder?
No.

Q80. Can I be your slave?
In session only. I have no requirement for a 24 hour live-in slave.

Q81. Will you crush insects for me in session?
How about I crush your scrotum with my high-heels? Would that turn you on?

Q81. Do you take precautions with your security?
Always and without exception. So, if you are planning on molesting me or just generally causing trouble - I really suggest you don't unless you want the legal authorities involved in your life for the forseeable future.

Q82. Do you offer financial domination?
No. I do not like this and find it distasteful. You provide a tribute and I provide a service in exchange. If it does not conform to this business principle then it is likely to be illegal, you know, like go-to-jail-type-illegal. There are specialist websites for financial domination. Speak to them.

Q83. Could we have a session outside, like a forest for example, where we might get seen?
Possibly once I know you. But I would not want to be discovered. If that is your thing, then I probably will not be able to help you.

Q84. Will you dom me by e-mail?
No. I do not offer this service. But if you interest me I might exchange e-mails with you.

Q85. By telephone?
No. Anyone attempting to telephone me just for the purpose of getting a cheap thrill will have to get used to speaking with the dial tone.

Q86. Why do you require 48 hours notice for a session?
Because I do not have my own premises and have to make arrangements to secure some.

Q87. Will you go for a drink with me afterwards?
No.

Q88. I just want to talk about it. Will you counsel me?
Absolutely, though I am not a trained counsellor - yet. But I am happy to discuss any issues you may have and provide you with my opinions if I can. However, my full hourly tribute continues to apply. My recommendation would be for you to visit your GP and get a referral to a trained therapist.

Q89. Can I be naked in session?
No, bottom only please.

Q90. Can my wife/girlfriend join us in session?
She can, but remember - no sexual contact with me.

Q91. What kind of a guy irritates/upsets/frightens you in session?
Guys who ...
1) ... turn up late believing that a display of tardiness will earn greater severity.
2) ... do not want to be submissive nor role-play.
3) ... who wait until the session has ended with my weaponry packed safely away before bravely declaring YOU DID NOT HIT ME HARD ENOUGH.
4) ... have e-mailed me, texted me or called me repeatedly requesting a severe caning then, when the day finally arrives, safeword after just a couple of strokes.
5) ... do not realise that the cane/paddle/whip, when applied to buttocks, does actually hurt. (A lot).
6) ... do not read my website then ask for services I have explicitly stated I DO NOT PROVIDE.
7) ... having read my website, still ask for services I have explicitly stated I DO NOT PROVIDE.
8) ... suddenly change on me - this is guaranteed to end the session whether it is complete or not.
9) ... want to negotiate the price of a one-hour tribute. I would not negotiate anything under four hours.
10) ... who want to direct the session themselves.

Q92. I really want to have a session but I don't like pain! What can I do?
Firstly decide whether your interest in BDSM is purely a fantasy or whether it is something you wish to experience. Not all sessions are painful. For example, you might feel happiest with some foot and leg worship or even just verbal humiliation. Book a session and explore, you are not expected to do anything you do not wish to do.

Q93. Do you offer double-dom sessions?
It could be arranged. But double-dom = double trouble = double 'ouch!' = double tribute.

Q94. I really want to book a session with you but I am scared and feel that I will lose my bottle on the day? What do you advise?
A very common problem. Ultimately, if you feel there is little chance of you arriving for your session then I would ask you respecfully not to book one, I cannot afford to waste my time. I re-iterate the key theme for all sessions - consensual. NOTHING will happen that has not been agreed upon beforehand. It is a pleasing sexual fantasy to submit unconditionally to the whims of a brutal Mistress without parameters or safewords, it is quite another thing to actually experience the reality. To explore the limits of your fantasies will take time, do not expect to run before you can walk. My aim is to provide you with the emotional fulfilment you require, not to beat you to within an inch of your life. You are NOT expected to begin by taking a judicial caning and, unless I know you well, I would not deliver one. For a novice, a light paddling or spanking is the best way to begin. It is easy, everyone can take it, and provides you with a nice gentle warm-up. After which, you will wonder why you were ever scared.

Q95. Have you sessioned with anyone famous?
Yes.

Q96. Care to share?
No.

Q97. What is your definition of a timewaster?
Variously ...
1) ... a guy who makes a booking and then does not show up.
2) ... a guy who writes lots of e-mails about the session he requires but never books one.
3) ... one-line e-mails from one-handed typists Dear Mistress, I want to be spanked by you, can you please advise? This is the type of e-mail that a guy will send to a hundred different girls with the belief that he might get a handful of responses to wank over. No attempt to impart information, he just wants a detailed description of me spanking him. Sad, cowardly and pathetic. You know who you are - get a life.

Q98. Can I do your housework without providing you with a tribute? I am very submissive and trained to obey commands?
I am sure this is a genuine request, but I have tried this type of arrangement in the past, and it never works. I am pro-dom not a lifestyle Mistress. I do what I do, I like to stick to what I know, anything else just complicates my life. I do not want the emotional demands of a 24/7 slave.

Q99. Am I allowed to wank in front of you?
I would rather you didn't.

Q100. What safeword do you use?
Mercy.

Q101. Can we agree that you will ignore my safeword and continue the caning?
Safewords will only be ignored during a judicial caning.

Q102. But I feel really guilty about wanting this.
Don't waste your life feeling guilty. Human sexuality is very complex and should not be defined by a husband and wife having missionary style sex every Saturday night. BDSM is perfectly normal and healthy as long as it does not involve children, animals or appalling violence against women (and men).

Q103. I am an Egyptian camel trader, and will offer your master 200 of my finest animals for your contract.
Is that accepted?
Sorry, but it will take nearer 400.

Q104. What about 5000 shekels?
What !! Are you having a laugh !! 5000 !! 5000 !! I was sold at auction for 8000 just two years ago !! You hear that everybody !! He only wants to pay 5000 !! I'm worth 10000 if I'm worth a shekel !! You think I'm cheap or something?

Q105. My wife does.
Cheap? How about you ask your wife how much she charges her regulars each Tuesday night. Maybe you have wondered what those funny stains are on the back seat of your Ford Cortina? Or why the two furry dice hanging from the windscreen are stuck together?

Q106. We are a small religious community based on a Pacific island south of Japan. We believe that you are the reincarnation of our Goddess Womanwanken, would you be prepared to take up residence in our community so that we may worship you?
Yes. But my full hourly tribute still applies.

Q107. Are you descended from the Greek Goddess Aphrodite?
As far as I know she used to work out of a flat above a fish-and-chip shop in Chipping Sodbury. No relation to me.

Q108. Where can I meet a woman like you?
Why don't you ask your wife?

Q109. My wife thinks you're a slut.
Tell her that her arse looks huge, even wearing that truss.

Q110. My wife thinks you're ugly.
Look who's talking. At least I have never appeared in Readers Wives.

Q111. My wife thinks you should get a proper job.
At least I do not have to suck your penis each month to get my housekeeping money.

Q112. My wife thinks women like you are corrupting the moral fibre of our society.
Women can find it very difficult to lose weight after childbirth and consequently husbands will roam.

Q113. My wife thinks you're that has-been porn star from the 70s.
I hate to cloud anybody's delusions with facts, but I wasn't actually born then. And besides, I can understand your wife feeling depressed given that her sex-life is defined by a vibrator, camcorder and a winch.

Q114. My mum warned me about girls like you.
She was right.

Q115. My wife thinks you're a prostitute.
Oh no !! Women as well !! Actually, tell you what, give me your wife's mobile number, I can probably put some work her way.

Q116. My wife thinks you're a nymphomaniac.
The problem is, your wife comes from a generation where orgasms were something women only knew about from reading magazines. A time when a wife still believed her husband's assertion that deep-throating Her was supposedly a cure for tonsilitis.

Q117. What makes you horny?
When is the penny going to drop? I am not interested in discussing the sex thing with you. Listen to me once again - CANING TURNS ME ON !! and it is something I need to do regularly. Got that? You guys need to wank a dozen times every day, and have sex with as many women as you can persuade to lay down and take it from you. Well, that is how I feel about caning. I need to thrash bottoms, otherwise the tensions just builds up and explodes within me.

Q118. What would you do if you were Prime Minister?
1) I would ban men from having any position of responsibility as testosterone confuses their tiny minds and make them a liability.
2) Prevent all men having access to pictures of ladies (clothed, naked or otherwise) until they have learnt to read.

Q119. My wife isn't the least bit dominant and, quite frankly, leaves me limp for a week when she takes Her clothes off. Do you have any advice?
A new wife perhaps? Or if that would be too expensive then how about emergency liposuction?

Q120. My wife thinks you're a manhater.
I am sick and tired of your bloody wife !! Do I hate men? No. I love them. It is just the idiots I do not like - and your loud, crass, ignorant wife.

Q121. If I don't withhold my telephone number, will you call my wife?
I would really prefer not to.

Q122. Why have you been calling my husband?
Check you telephone bill. You will discover that it is your husband who has been calling me to talk about his erections.

Q123. Would you see me and my friend Cyril at the same time? And with just one tribute?
Are you honestly telling me that you would want your friend to watch whilst I dommed you? No. I would not see two guys together, it would be too dangerous for me. And besides, even if security was sorted out, I would still require a tribute from the pair of you.

Q124. My wife doesn't believe you are a size 10.
Wow! She has finally got something right. I am size 8.

Q125. I finally persuaded my wife to spank me the other evening. But I found it a turn-off, and the sex afterwards was not very good. What am I doing wrong?
I suggest that you ask your wife to forego the supper of pickled eggs and pilchards that she is partial to. Or at least suggest she cleans her teeth before she gets into bed. Or if that is a problem, then leave them in a jar of water overnight.

Q126. After 47 years of marriage, the wife and I thought we would spice up our sex lives. I got myself a cock-ring, and she slimmed down to a size 18. For the first time since our honeymoon she gave me a blowjob. Problem was, my newly installed ring got caught on one of her fillings and we ended up in A&E having to be separated. Do you think we are being too adventurous given that we are both in our 70s?
Yes. Good idea if you stick to magazines, at least that way it will only be you who gets a hernia.

Q127. I like the thought of you nude mud wrestling with my wife, interested?
Well, you are free to think.

Q128. Will you polish my knob for me?
Sounds to me like you need a local bob-a-job scout. They are always looking for a bit of extra pocket money for those things no one else wants to do.

Q129. What is the most disgusting thing you have ever been asked to provide in session?
Many things. But one that does spring to mind involved ferrets, a sturdy cardboard tube and forceps. Unfortunately, I do not own any of these items so was not able to oblige the well-adjusted gentleman on that occasion.

Q130. Would you be interested in a weekend of trout fishing in Devon? I would also need to be spanked whilst you were wearing your rubber yellow wellies, but not too hard because the wife would see the marks and we are already having arguments about the pigeon loft I am building in her vegetable patch.
You charmer.

Q131. Why is domination so expensive?
Because it is. See My Journal, I have explained this in detail. I am too bored to do it again here.

Q132. But its more expensive than sex?
You can get sex from your wife or any working girl. Domination services are provided by fewer women, therefore the product becomes more scarce and the price goes up. Market forces I'm afraid.

Q133. I am a pensioner, will you give me a discount?
Now that did make me laugh ha-ha.

Q134. I am having some cash flow problems right now. Can I pay you double next time?
No tribute = no session.

Q135. How often should I have a session with you?
As often as you need to and have tributes to offer. I would never encourage somebody to offer tributes they could not afford. After all, your wife and kids must be your first priority. Also, if you have received a judicial caning, you are best advised to take several weeks to recover first.

Q136. Why are out-calls more expensive?
To cover my travel time and petrol for my car.

Q137. Are tributes to be paid before the session begins or after it finishes?
Before. Otherwise there will be no session.

Q138. Why don't you get a proper job to pay your bills. Then you can session with me for free?
Right-o. I will get my old job back at the bank and then add you to my list of priorities. And how about you get a proper job as well, one that actually involves a days work for a days pay, instead of trawling the Internet for sex because you cannot get a girlfriend. Please stay away and do not contact me again, there's a good boy.

Q139. I can't afford to visit a professional dominatrix. What can I do?
Variously ...
1) ... ask your wife.
2) ... ask your sister-in-law.
3) ... save up some money.
4) ... get a job.
5) ... CP video producers are always looking for willing subs.
6) ... ask a neighbour.
7) ... ask your boss at work (assuming she is female).
8) ... find a 24/7 dominatrix and ask to be her live-in slave.
9) ... ask your mother-in-law.
10) ... ask your local bob-a-job scout leader.
11) ... self-flagellate.

Q140. But I really, really, really need to be caned. Please help me Mistress.
Is this the way you behave when asked for payment by your local garage for having serviced and MOTed your car? Is this how you would respond? No. So why am I different? You could learn to service your car yourself but, failing that, you will have to pay a professional to do it for you. There is no difference. I am providing you with a service. You are quite welcome to find a girl and ask her to do it for free. It is not my fault you can't.

Q141. But its impossible to find a dominant partner.
Granted, it is difficult. There are many more sub men than dominant ladies, so I agree it is not an easy task. But, that is for you to work out. I would suggest you visit clubs, chat on forums, place personal ads and maybe just try to cultivate the dominant tendency in your girlfriend. It can be done, just that most men do not have the patience - they want it now. That is where I come in.

Q142. But it is so, so, expensive. It's not fair.
Is it expensive? You only think so because you don't want to pay, believing that you ought to have it for free. Well, listen to me sunshine, life is not fair and life is not free. If you are that desperate then get an evening job at your local supermarket stacking shelves. You should have enough for a session with me by the end of the month.

Q143. I sent you an e-mail asking for a recommendation as to the number of strokes of the cane I should receive for being a naughty boy. Why have you not replied?
Because I deleted your e-mail. If you want a session, call me to arrange one.

Q144. I want to be severely spanked/caned/strapped/birched/whipped. Can you advise me please?
No. Either book a session or leave. In session you will get all the advice you need.

Q145. I am nervous and want to speak/write to you first.
I understand. The best thing to do is book a session and we can talk then. I will respond to intelligent e-mails asking specific questions, but will soon tire of this if you do not progress towards naming a date.

Q146. Can I do "security" for you?
I am certain yours is a genuine offer, but unless I have known you for sometime, it kind of makes a mockery of the notion of security. And besides, would you be available at a moments notice? Would you want to do it for free? No session and no fees? Probably not I suspect.

Q147. Aren't out-calls risky? After all, you don't you who you are going to see?
Yes, they are riskier and I would have to convince myself that you were a safe bet. However, my whereabouts is known at ALL times. And the alarm will be raised if I do not confirm my safety once a session is complete. Having said that, 99 out of 100 guys are perfect gentlemen. It is the one rotten apple that spoils it for everybody else, making security measures necessary.

Q148. Would you object to my having more than one Mistress?
You are not my prisoner.

Q149. Does caning a guy ever make you orgasmic?
Orgasmic caning? Now I like the sound of that. Different stimuli can elicit a rainbow of sexual responses from any woman. For me, caning is one of them. Sometimes I can get very aroused by the act of thrashing someone, but it tends to be the exception and not the rule. It is more likely to occur during a longer session than a short one, and with someone I know rather than someone I do not. And of course, it would have to be someone who was able to take my most severe administrations. But that is really too simple, many things affect the way a woman responds. The temperature, lighting, how she felt when waking up that morning, and a million other thoughts and combinations. But - and here is the important point - I would never make this known in session, nor would I ever have any sexual contact with you. I answer this question honestly, but NOT to encourage you. If you start getting sexual with me, the session ends automatically and there is no reprieve.

Q150. Can you recommend a Mistress to me?
No. Every girl is different, it is up to you to decide if she is right for you.

Q151. If you were not a Mistress, what would be your ideal career choice?
Probably working in the third world somewhere, trying to make difference to the lives of those who are destitute and without hope.

Q152. What do you like to listen to when soaking in the bath?
Canework striking exposed male buttock flesh complete with the agonised gasps that follow. Failing that, I am very partial to Mozart and Bach.

Q153. Favourite film?
I liked Gladiator with Russell Crowe because there was something about his character that appealed to a primitive instinct within women. It is the way he loved his wife and child beyond all else, and for any woman that is a real aphrodisiac. I also liked Robert De Niro in Casino, I am definitely the sassy Sharon Stone character in that film. A wild girl with an eye for the underdog. In fact, I enjoy most films directed by Martin Scorcese or starring Al Pacino or Robert De Niro. Strong, confident, chivalrous men turn me on!

Q154. I am God's gift to women and I feel certain you will want to see me naked.
I feel certain that you are wrong. You are NOT God's gift to women. Besides, I have already sessioned with him and he came up short - about five inches too short.

Q155. Will you cane me until I bleed?
Bleeding is your deparment, not mine.

Q156. Do you insure your legs?
Yes I do. I did so earlier this year for 12,000,000 UK Pounds.

Q157. Will you cane me in your underwear.
I might be persuaded.

Q158. Can I self-relieve in session?
No.

Q159. Why not?
Firstly, I just do not like the sight of you doing this. Secondly, I would be concerned where you might be thinking about inserting your appendage when the mood gets the better of you.

Q160. Can I kiss your knickers?
Are you sure it is just my knickers you want to kiss?

Q161. You decadent western slags are always flaunting your bodies like whores, you disgust us!
Quite. Now, I do not claim to know a lot about the techy stuff of websites but, those who do, tell me that quite a lot of my website traffic originates from non-Western countries such as yours. For all of your rhetoric, bigortry, hatred and moral servitude, it seems that a great many of your countrymen, privately, disagree with you. Stop wanking over my pictures and go figure.

Q162. Me and the wife are heading up to Yorkshire for a spot of bog snorkelling. In the evening I fancy you sponging me and my privates down with a hose and wet cloth which will be quite messy by the time I have finished. Not a word to the wife because she thinks I like normal stuff. What do you cost?
10,000 UK Pounds per hour, and for that, your wife can watch.

Q163. Can I bring you garden canes to thrash me with?
Absolutely, but bring half a dozen as I will probably break them on you.

Q164. What makes you laugh?
Impressionists make me laugh, like Rory Bremner and Alistair McGowan. News that you have caught your wife in bed with her 19 year-old lover would make me laugh. The funniest thing that has happened to me, and this was some years ago at the beginning of my dominant career, was when one chap decided that rather than have the session he had paid for, he would instead take off his clothes in preparation to molest me. By some co-incidence, I had my neighbours Alsation cross in the next room. I had agreed to look after her whilst the owners were on holiday. As a result of my screaming, Petra comes bursting in with teeth bared and an obvious desire to defend me. She launched herself at this chap, engaging him in an impromptu tug-of-war. I often wonder how he would have explained the teeth marks on his little manhood to his wife. Fortunately for him, he was still in warm-up mode, so Petra really only had a bit of gristle to chew upon, otherwise my canine guardian might have had a bone to bury! I couldn't stop laughing for a week after that!! The memory still brings a smile to my lips even today.

Q165. May I swallow viagra during session?
Be my guest, but I will not be swallowing anything. And you will have no use for your erection during session so why bother? I will stamp out erections, HARD. Why not use it for your wife's benefit? It might encourage her to stay awake whilst you are pummeling her, instead of just laying on her back snoring.

Q166. Favourite holiday destination?
Bognor Regis. Only joking, somewhere warm, sunny and picturesque. An African safari would be nice.

Q167. Favourite football team?
No interest I'm afraid. 22 men chasing a bag of air.

Q168. I'm Farmer Gilbert, would you give me a session out in the open in one of my cow fields? By the way you remind me of one of my heifers, she's got a great pair of udders as well and won a rosette in a country show earlier this year.
Secrets of seduction number 1481. Do not - either intentionally, by insinuation or by accident - compare a lady to a prize winning heifer.

Q169. Can you do me a back, sac and crack?
Yes, but I prefer to use coarse grade sandpaper. Will that be OK?

Q170. Do you like flowers?
What girl doesn't? Red roses will do just fine. XXX

Q171. Which male celebrities do you like?
Gordon Ramsay. Sir Alan Sugar. Al Pacino to name three.

Q172. Glass half-full or half-empty?
Half-full.

Q173. High maintenance or low maintenance?
Definitely high maintenance.

Q174. Fancy going horse rustling with me?
I assume you mean horse-riding? Take more water with it please.

Q175. Can I e-mail my b******s to you?
I would rather you left them out for the dustman instead. And besides, my e-mail filter is set up to prevent pricks getting through to me.

Q176. Would you come and watch the ladies tennis with me?
Yes, I would love to, but unless you have VIP Centre Court tickets at Wimbledon, my hourly tribute still applies. I suggest you watch it on TV instead, you can then relieve yourself in the privacy of your own armchair but be careful you don't stain the fabric otherwise your wife might start asking questions.

Q177. What is your favourite type of session?
Someone who knows what they want. He will book a session for an exact time and duration on an exact day. He will arrive on time, provide the tribute without quibbling, engage in a fun session and then leave without incident. This impresses me, particularly when it is repeated a dozen times.

Q178. Will you do face-sitting? I cannot read so there is no point referring me to your website.
Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!

Q179. Can I take you shopping?
Yes please !!! Clothes, lingerie, shoes and Cristal Champagne.

Q180. Do you create your own website?
Yes, I do. I got tired of relying on others so attended a computer course to get myself trained. I might be blonde but am not stupid.

Q181. Will you be seduced into having sex with me?
No. I refer you to my answer to question 34. I have turned down a suitcase full of cash before now, so it will just not happen. If you intend to book a session with sex in mind, then please do not waste your time or mine, it will never happen. I know that most men believe they are God's gift but, believe me when I say "no sex please, I'm a dominatrix". Go find a prostitute and seduce her, it will be a great deal easier!

Q182. Why "Mistress Estella"?
Read "Great Expectations" by Charles Dickens.

Q183. Can I tattoo your name on my penis?
Certainly, but I quite understand if you need to drop "Mistress" and just use "Estella". Or if you are feeling the chill, then "E" will do just fine.

Q184. Would you do a public caning?
What, you mean at Hyde Park corner or somewhere like that?

Q185. Can I star in your videos?
What videos are they then?

Q186. Can you do Singapore caning?
You should get a guy to do this for you. Most women, including this one, will just not have the physical strength.

Q187. I am the assistant to the Crown Prince of Kazakhstan. He has ordered me to have you scrubbed before bringing you to his tent where his Highness intends to ride your like one of his camels. You will make a worthy addition to his herd.
Ooooh, I get so tingly just not thinking about it. And are there camels in Kazakhstan?

Q188. Would you hit my b***s until they explode?
I include this here to demonstrate what "safe, sane and consensual" really does not mean.

Q189. Brother Jeremiah and I from the South-Northern Neo-Baptist Church of Alabama [Split 1917 from the Free Love Church of Alabama over a dispute about the interpretation of Choir Boys] condemn you for building a devil's steeple in the Temple of our loins.
Well, I've never had a problem erecting fenceposts in my front garden, but steeples? Temples? Huh? I suggest you two boys may have lost your way, go back to Google and type something suitably Christian like "self-love" instead of "blonde dominatrix", "whipping and caning" and "high-heels". I think that perhaps on this occasion your steeples may have interfered with your typing.

Q190. I have a fantasy where you and the wife watch me wrestle an alligator. The winner gets to have sex.
Huh? I will let your wife claim the prize, alligators are more her kind of thing than mine by the looks of things.

Q191. Sorry I had to cancel my appointment with you, my girlfriend found out and wouldn't let me come.
No kidding, is that what you tell her when you can't get it up? "I'm waiting for permission". Methinks you should stop pretending - idiots like you don't have girlfriends except for the plastic kind that have to be emptied every couple of months. Timewaster.

Q192. Do you have a red swimsuit, and if so, do you look good in and out of it?
Yes and yes and yes, not that you are going to find out.

Q193. Speaking of swimsuits, did you ever audition for Baywatch back in the 90s?
No. Pammie and I are both good at breast-stroke, but there ends the similarity I'm afraid.

Q194. What is the furthest distance you will travel for a session?
Ideally anywhere in the South East corner. Southampton, Reading, Southend, Dover, London, that sort of distance. I would travel further but unless you are very wealthy, you would find my tribute prohibitive. If you live a long distance away and really want to session with me, then I suggest you visit me and stay in a local hotel. Call me for some details.

Q195. Would you escort me to the opera, assuming I paid your tribute?
Yes please ! My favourite is Madam Butterfly. A real tear-jerker, gets me everytime.

Q196. Have you had a boob job?
No, I have not, although if you want to pay for one then that could be free sessions for a year !

Q197. Do you see disabled people?
Yes, I am perfectly happy to do so although it would much depend on your circumstances and whether it was practical. Either way, we must always act responsibly - and that could mean not having a session.

Q198. Are you familiar with scripture Estella?
Mistress Estella to you. Yes, I studied under Father Ted on Craggy island. He advised me that rather than spend years learning the stuff in a classroom, it was much quicker and easier if he and the other priests took it in turns to fill me with the Holy Spirit each night of my stay. In that way, I then had more time to repay their favour by helping them with their fitness (I am an instructor), demonstrating aerobic exercises wearing the bikini they generously all chipped in to buy me as a measure of their gratitude.

Q199. Tell me one of your secrets Mistress Estella.
I am actually a 6'7' beer-swilling, rugby-playing tranvestite called Dave.

Q200. Can I be your whipping boy Mistress Estella?
Certainly, book a session and lets get started.

Q201. I understand your no-sex rule Mistress Estella, but I like to get sexual in sessions.
You obviously do not understand my no sex rule. Let me re-iterate this "Getting sexual in session = immediate end to session."

Q202. My other Mistress will not give me permission to see you. Could you give her a call and talk it over?
No. You deal with it.

Q203. May I critique the session I have with you and send you an e-mail of my thoughts?
If you wish, but I always give 100% in session, so if you have criticisms to make then make them to my face the next time I see you.

Q204. Would you be prepared to accept an exchange of services in lieu of a tribute?
In my experience, when this question is asked, the service in question is usually something something banal like "gardening", "cleaning" or - wait for it --- "massage". No tribute = no session.

Q205. I am gay, will you still see me?
Listen, I will see anyone regardless of gender, colour, sexual orientation or disposition in life. All I ask is tributes to be paid, no quibbling, and respect throughout.

Q206. Would you be prepared to catch my cock with a mousetrap?
Yes, if the offending item is making a nuisance of itself then I would not hesitate in putting an end to its rummaging.

Q207. Would you be prepared to take "before" and "after" photographs of my bottom.
Yes, bring your own camera and I will oblige. But no photographs of me.

Q207. Do you do bitch and slut training?
Slut training - yes. But, to be a bitch you first have to be a woman.

Q208. Would you escort me to my local fetish club and pretend to be my girlfriend?
Yes, if you are prepared to pay my hourly tribute.

Q209. Ever done Page 3?
No.

Q210. Ever done Playboy?
I have, but not for the magazine.